Open Letter To My Dearest Husband - From the Heart.
My cherished first love and partner,
Coming upto to celebrating our 27th Wedding Anniversary, it is inevitable that I look back, reminisce and take account of this our most personal relationship. That I should share this with the world, is a bold move on my part but my life is an open book at the moment for all our friends to see. So, I hope you will excuse this little indiscretion as I know you are going through much of the same tribulations as I.
When we were married I recall a very affectionate administrator from my College giving us some advice on how to have a happy marriage. ' My Dear, she said, ' never go to bed on a quarrel and be sure to start each day with the words I Love You '. I honestly cannot say that we followed that advice, it began to sound a little 'hammy' after a while but I believe today, that I know just what she meant.
Trying to recover my health after this stroke has made me a rather selfish and demanding person. I know what I need and have precious little time to wait for it. So, the past few weeks must have been hard on you, my dear husband, who is now missing the old attentive wife who had always put OUR needs & priorities before her own. We have had a marriage where actions spoke louder than words, although words were often needed to prompt those actions. Bringing many rewards, this has been a partnership based on hard work during which we had no time to develop those little rituals & habits of love & affection. We both find ourselves today, physically exhausted, a little bruised and battered and in need of TLC by the buckets full and in no physical shape to provide it.
I now wonder if those simple words of advice, some 17 years ago, to develop the habit of love, might have eased the pain of these testing times.
So here goes, ' Sorry'for all those bedtimes when I slept on a quarrel and 'I love you' for every new dawn we have seen together'.
Happy Anniversary My Love.
My cherished first love and partner,
Coming upto to celebrating our 27th Wedding Anniversary, it is inevitable that I look back, reminisce and take account of this our most personal relationship. That I should share this with the world, is a bold move on my part but my life is an open book at the moment for all our friends to see. So, I hope you will excuse this little indiscretion as I know you are going through much of the same tribulations as I.When we were married I recall a very affectionate administrator from my College giving us some advice on how to have a happy marriage. ' My Dear, she said, ' never go to bed on a quarrel and be sure to start each day with the words I Love You '. I honestly cannot say that we followed that advice, it began to sound a little 'hammy' after a while but I believe today, that I know just what she meant.
Trying to recover my health after this stroke has made me a rather selfish and demanding person. I know what I need and have precious little time to wait for it. So, the past few weeks must have been hard on you, my dear husband, who is now missing the old attentive wife who had always put OUR needs & priorities before her own. We have had a marriage where actions spoke louder than words, although words were often needed to prompt those actions. Bringing many rewards, this has been a partnership based on hard work during which we had no time to develop those little rituals & habits of love & affection. We both find ourselves today, physically exhausted, a little bruised and battered and in need of TLC by the buckets full and in no physical shape to provide it.
I now wonder if those simple words of advice, some 17 years ago, to develop the habit of love, might have eased the pain of these testing times.
So here goes, ' Sorry'for all those bedtimes when I slept on a quarrel and 'I love you' for every new dawn we have seen together'.
Happy Anniversary My Love.
I don't know if my earlier comments to this chapter went through there seemed to be a problem i just wanted to add,yes for sure its a Bold move but also very sincere and the underlying kindness is there for all to feel...almost tangible :)
ReplyDeleteYes indeed Sunita, Your comments have all been received and published. Thank you again.
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